What is success? This is naturally a difficult question to answer as it means different things to different people. Yet, we put ourselves under pressure to achieve it, often without looking at where our ideas of success come from. Is it from family, peers or society?


As I’ve grown older I’ve realised that some of my values and beliefs differ from those closest to me. Not always on a grand scale but where a certain lifestyle is important to my parents, it might not be to me. It’s been quite the stark realisation as many of us grow up yearning for approval from our parents. Yet nature plays as big a part as nurture and it’s okay to not need or want what others around you strive for. However one important thing you will need to figure out is what makes you happy in order to truly become it.

As an example, I realised that as much as I love travelling I’m much happier staying closer to home, especially now I have a young child. I don’t have aspirations to go holidaying in far away places at this time. My siblings spent their gap years visiting Australia, South East Asia and South America and are both keen to go back where I’m much more excited to visit and revisit places like Greece, Italy or Croatia for our next family holiday.


Whatever you want to do start now – not tomorrow, now!

Many of us wait for the perfect moment. Though as we know those rarely arise and so you end up procrastinating telling yourself that it’s not quite the right time to indulge your passion for fashion by getting into retail recruitment or embracing your love of dogs by setting up your own grooming business, for example. What first – even if it’s simple or small – step can you take this very moment to get just that bit closer to your goal? Sign up for a class? Join a running club? Register your domain name for a blog?


Find someone to join your journey. Possibly a friend or college who is trying to achieve a goal of their own. If you want to lose weight then find a gym buddy. If you want to start a YouTube channel maybe do it together or help each other out. Should you not have one person close by then make your online social network your cheerleaders and make yourself accountable that way. It is much harder to stay snuggled up in bed if you know someone is waiting for you to join them at a spinning class at 7 am.



Creating a new habit takes time. Yet the more you do something the easier it becomes. Force yourself to build momentum by repeating something every day. Create consistency. Whether it is as simple as making the bed as an act of mentally clearing up before you start your day or it’s doing 10 minutes of yoga each night to strengthen your body before going to sleep.


Put perfection to one side and just get on with it. Want a happier life? Allow yourself to figure out what that looks like for you and then go after it one step at a time. Good luck!


The other day I watched a speech by comedian Will Ferrell talking about his success. He pointed out that yes, he had been both lucky and successful in his career but the true importance of success lay in your relationship with your loved ones, your children and how you act towards others. That you will never be truly successful until you learn to give beyond yourself. Show kindness and empathy as these traits are signs of true emotional intelligence. Something to keep in the back of your mind as you strive for other things.

What does success look like to you?



13 thoughts on “HOW TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS

  1. I completely agree with all the points here, success is what you make of it, although I feel like I’m constantly trying to achieve so I’m seen as successful in other people’s eyes. But what matters is that you feel yourself are successful, not others. I like the point about small steps too, making you feel that you are actually achieving something. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  2. We definitely all see success differently. I like your point about getting into the habbit of doing something, makes it become natural.

  3. Great post Nadia – defining success can be so hard especially if you are always looking for approval from others …I’m trying to focus on the really small every day successes at the moment! Love the photos of Caspian x #kcacols

  4. Ah I love this! Success is defined so differently by us all but I agree we should get out there and start doing. It really helps doing it with other people too, sharing a common goal. #fortheloveofBLOG

  5. Failure is delay, not defeat. I think we need to look closely at what we see as success. We’re all just wheels in motion, there is no static point when we’re a success. It comes and goes all the time. As long as you are moving, you are somewhere on the road to success #FortheloveofBlog.

  6. I think fear stops a lot of people from doing both what they want and what they need to do. Not just to be successful but to be happy too. #kcacols

  7. I love this post. I am trying ot make myself accountable and Olivia is helping me out to with my workouts and asking if I have done them and sending me off if i haven’t already lol! #kcacols

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