What is success? This is naturally a difficult question to answer as it means different things to different people. Yet, we put ourselves under pressure to achieve it, often without looking at where our ideas of success come from. Is it from family, peers or society?
HOW TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS
As I’ve grown older I’ve realised that some of my values and beliefs differ from those closest to me. Not always on a grand scale but where a certain lifestyle is important to my parents, it might not be to me. It’s been quite the stark realisation as many of us grow up yearning for the approval from our parents. Yet nature plays as big a part as nurture and it’s okay to not need or want what others around you strive for. Though one important thing you will need to figure out is what makes you happy in order to truly become it.
As an example, I realised that as much as I love travelling I’m much happier staying closer to home, especially now I have a young child. I don’t have aspirations to go holidaying in far away places at this time. My siblings spent their gap years visiting Australia, South East Asia and South America and are both keen to go back where I’m much more excited to visit and revisit places like Greece, Italy or Croatia for our next family holiday.
IS THE FEAR OF FAILING STOPPING YOU FROM ACTUALLY ACHIEVING SUCCESS?
Whatever you want to do start now – not tomorrow, now!
Many of us wait for the perfect moment. Though as we know those rarely arise and so you end up procrastinating telling yourself that it’s not quite the right time. What first – even if it’s simple or small – step can you take this very moment to get just that bit closer to your goal? Sign up for a class? Join a running club? Register your domain name for a blog?
MAKE YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE
Find someone to join your journey. Possibly a friend or college who is trying to achieve a goal of their own. If you want to lose weight then find a gym buddy. If you want to start a YouTube channel maybe do it together or help each other out. Should you not have one person close by then make your online social network your cheerleaders and make yourself accountable that way. It is much harder to stay snuggled up in bed if you know someone is waiting for you to join them at a spinning class at 7 am.
MAKE A HABIT OF IT
Creating a new habit takes time. Yet the more you do something the easier it becomes. Force yourself to build momentum by repeating something every day. Create consistency. Whether it is as simple as making the bed as an act of mentally clearing up before you start your day or it’s doing 10 minutes of yoga each night to strengthen your body before going to sleep.
MAKE YOURSELF DO IT
Put perfection to one side and just get on with it. Want a happier life? Allow yourself to figure out what that looks like for you and then go after it one step at a time. Good luck!
The other day I watched a speech by comedian Will Ferrell talking about his success. He pointed out that yes, he had been both lucky and successful in his career but the true importance of success laid in your relationship with your loved ones, your children and how you act towards others. That you will never be truly successful until you learn to give beyond yourself. Show kindness and empathy as these traits are signs of true emotional intelligence. Something to keep in the back of your mind as you strive for other things.
What does success look like to you?
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